Professional players (those who have a rating and play for prize funds) use psychology in chess a lot more than amateurs, both in online chess games or serious OTB. Let me explain the Psychology of chess weakness with an example.
There was a game between Fischer and Mikhail Tal, and Tal had sacrificed material since he was by nature very tactical. But Fischer had only one move that could refute the sacrifice, and he wrote the move he intended to play in his score sheet.
[Back then it was legal then to write the move, think about it, and play it. Nowadays you are not allowed to do it. You must first make the move on the board and then write it down].
When Tal came back after looking at other grandmaster games that were being played, he saw the move Fischer wrote and smiled slyly.
Fischer then played an inferior move compared to the move he wrote down and lost the game. When asked why he changed the move from what he had written, he replied that it was because Tal had given a subtle smile when he saw the move Fischer had written.
Had he not fallen to the psychological trick of Tal, Fischer would have had better results!
Psychology of chess weakness in the present day
Psychology is an indispensable component of one’s chess strength or weakness. To win a chess game one needs to have not just a bedrock of chess knowledge, but a strong psychological demeanor. Every sports arena has examples of players who could not overcome a terrible loss and lost their composure in the rest of the games. No wonder they would be at a loss trying to figure out what went wrong.
As a well-known translation of Sun Tzu puts it, “all warfare is based on deception.”
In our Online Chess classes at Golden Chess, one of the tools I used to check the chess kid’s progress is to see if he has any psychological weakness.
For example, when I play an online game at the end of my Online Chess classes, I use a technique, like a grimace or a simple frowning sound, to make my student think I had made a bad move. I am sure lots of fellow coaches do the same too! The student gets excited and gets lulled into a false sense of complacency. This makes him play without proper calculations and make a mistake after that.
Over the board, the psychology of body language also plays a major part, like for example, how you are seated, how you look at the board, how you move the chess pieces, how fast you play, how long you think (my favorite trick), staring at your opponent, etc.
If you feel confident, then you make your opponent feel uncomfortable. And one way to ooze confidence was to come late to the game board.
Fischer often came too late at the board if he knew his opponent was not strong mentally. I know of one Indian IM who would always come 30 minutes late and play fast, rattling his opponent.
Another glaring example of the use of Psychology of Chess Weaknesses is a famous game between Karpov and Miles which went 1. e4 a6.
Karpov must have felt strangely coerced to punish this move, as no chess player had played this move. Not even an amateur forget about grandmasters played this move. Result? Karpov stretched, overplayed, and lost.
Of course, a6 is very inferior to mainline defenses, but it’s not something a player of Karpov’s stature would have lost sleep!
In really fast time control chess games online, one psychological trick is to play very fast.
4 Tips on overcoming the psychology of chess weaknesses
1. Cover your shortfalls.
Find your most insecure area of knowledge and place all of your efforts into transforming it into a powerful force.
For example, if your greatest weakness is the inability to do deep calculations and analysis then this shortage affects both the tactical and analytical requirements in OTB gameplay.
And unless you improve these skills first, any future chess improvement will be difficult and results will be inconsistent.
You avoid or delay improving on your blank spots and this is the main reason you stagnate since you are not eliminating the problem that keeps giving you trouble on the chessboard.
Our prime focus in online chess classes for kids is to keep checking for the blank spots in the kids’ chess knowledge.
2. Your weakness will be your opponent’s strength!
Whatever your weaknesses maybe if you don’t turn them 360 degrees into your strengths they will be a constant source of pain.
Here are some approaches to converting your weakness into strength:
Unwavering Focus – Give priority to your chess training, and eliminate diversions when training.
Daily Practice – Practice regularly and daily. Keep a diverse training schedule that provides you with a fresh outlook every time you train. Your practice should be focused primarily on your blank spots. In our chess classes for kids, this is our prime focus.
Make it interesting. One day could be solving tactical problems, the next day could be endgame ideas. Choose as per mood, time, and energy.
Stretch your training – Always give the fullest involvement during every practice session, and do not hesitate to stretch yourself, during the chess training session. Each session should build upon the last while constantly revisiting the old lessons learned.
Having a serious game – Playing serious games at the academy or home (with a family member) allows you to reinforce the concepts and ideas picked up in your training environment to match play.
Integrate conceptual conscious thinking and note-taking into your daily practice.
3. Finding Your Weaknesses
The following tips might help you to isolate the weaknesses in your chess game:
Review your games, preferably with a coach or a stronger player. An experienced coach will immediately see the mistakes and separate the wood from the trees. This perspective though not free will help save a lot of time.
Ask your coach to regularly evaluate your skill sets by curated tests, to find your weak areas. We at Golden Chess Centre regularly conduct evaluations in our Online Chess Classes via Skype or Zoom.
4. Create a Training plan (with your coach if possible)
A good coach will create a plan based on his assessment of your strengths and weaknesses and this will help you in saving time and climbing faster.
Continue solving puzzles and tactics.
Another technique we use in our Online Chess classes is to play over master games using an analytical method.
Never try moving the chess pieces when analyzing or solving problems. Must treat training as a tournament scenario.
Conclusion
With your self-confidence boosted by regular online chess practice, you will slowly realize that Psychology of Chess Weaknesses will not pull you down.
Whatever efforts you put into mastering the game, the same quantum of self-confidence will be your strong point.
Correct Attitude to Learning chess (making it rewarding and enjoyable)
“You can lead a horse to a river, but you cannot make it to drink”
Correct Attitude to Learning chess
Let us look at the Correct Attitude to Learning chess (making it rewarding and enjoyable). When I learned to play this game I was taught to be polite and courteous. The players I played did have a meltdown if the results went south, but they never lost their cool.
Nowadays, there is a lot of offensive, cranky nervous response, which may just be a generation-gap behavior, but is frustrating for those of us who learned this game in those times – when there was no social media influence and the impact of adrenalin-rush movies.
It becomes even more disturbing when I see my new online chess students getting frustrated (to put it mildly). Also, it seems more pronounced from the Western World kids – Ed
My personal observation, after over two decades of chess training experience, is that there should be no place for pride and taunting or overly depressing feelings because of the results.
Our approach towards our games, whether they be training games or a real chess tournament, dictates whether we end up shaky and down – or – positive and happy – while learning and savoring the game at the same time. That is why chess learning for beginners is a delicate process for both the coach and the budding chess players.
Maybe that’s because back then, we enjoyed the classes, thanks to our majority of the fantastic teachers, or we had a good bunch of friends to be spending time with, within a class or outside. Chess learning for beginners was a fun project for us coaches.
So does that mean that nowadays, chess learning for beginners and advanced players has changed direction? Or could there be other factors and external influences, like social media and screen devices, that are distracting the chess learning experience? I guess it is true to some extent. But it was also something more than that.
It was that the academy had nurtured a culture of respect for learning environments, a culture where even if a child lost a chess game or seemed sad, she/he was never taunted or disrespected.
All this was done with subtle monitoring by the Teachers and the trainers. Of course, there was healthy criticism involved here too.
Understanding this influence tells us something about how proper chess learning for beginners can be influenced.
By valuing children and their performance in chess and training regimen, the children slowly learn to value their own work and themselves (self-esteem).
Slowly, as chess kids entered higher levels, they matured and became independent and responsible for their own chess learning.
We, chess coaches, earned respect not because we were good instructors but because of what motivation we gave.
The chess kids learned not to glorify one player over another, whether in chess or scholastic. Every chess kid in the chess academy is important, and good results in chess are as much looked upon as in scholastic.
They learned to question their games, their lessons, and other players’ chess games, and also defended their points for such scrutiny.
Eventually, it came to taking responsibility for all their actions.
Chess Lessons, meant for me, will not be learned by everyone in equal measure because of plenty of circumstantial factors that affect how much each individual learns. But those who take away these essentials are those who will find it easier, to progress everywhere.
Academies and coaches that foster such learning are a rarity. But it helps to recognize what these factors are so we can help cultivate them even outside the school.
What is the Correct Attitude to Learning chess from a coach’s perspective?
Here are tips for us all – whether we are chess coaches or parents of chess players or merely chess aficionados.
1 Try not to involve your EGO.
My chess lessons and methods are evolving every day.
I tell my chess students to play with a Correct Attitude to Learning chess, one that is devoid of ego.
After all, we will not become chess grandmasters overnight.
Sometimes we will win – and feel good about it – but we will also lose, to stronger players and spend most of the time sulking about it.
2. Focus on chess learning as a fun experience than a chore.
Our aim as chess learners should be to have a correct Attitude to Learning chess – To treat a game as a test of understanding of chess, not an anxiety exercise in keeping up the ball-park of performance at a high level.
3. To search for truth in every position.
Every move is theoretically a test of our decision-making abilities, some more important than others, and whoever is more composed, will make the sound decisions and win the game.
During chess learning for beginners, questions like –
Should I exchange my Bishop with my opponent’s knight at f6 or not?
Should I play the obvious looking move or do a forcing calculation before choosing the right line?
Should I convert into an endgame or keep the pieces on board for favorable times?
will arise and confuse the chess kids, and for me, this is an enjoyable experience, irrespective of the result.
4. Every loss is a lesson. Learn from it.
When results are going south, I look at which moves and decisions were right and wrong, and how they can be used for future scenarios by my students.
The next time when they face a similar situation on the chessboard, the chess lessons that they have learned previously will provide the right guidance.
This is a very pleasurable and fulfilling experience for both me as a chess coach and my chess kids!
Never worry about chess ratings. I tell my students to not look at them. Those are just numbers – like shadows, they too will always follow our consistent performance’s upward graph.
5. Never blame anyone for your losses
As long as we continue blaming external reasons (or other people) not to learn eg: boring teachers, complicated textbooks, faulty assessment methods, school infrastructure is bad, etc., learning will always elude us.
What we need to have is a Correct Attitude to Learning chess – a small paradigm-shift, reduce the importance to our egos, and then the learning will be fun.
Lessons I learned
I am enjoying giving online chess lessons much more when I am devoid of any ego while playing with my students.
Developing an attitude of meditation throughout the game has made me what I am – a learner.
Hopefully providing lifelong satisfaction in this game. These are perhaps the biggest lessons learned by me.
About the Author
Hey, I’m Kish Kumar.
Over the last two decades, I’ve trained more than 500 students in chess, from India and abroad through online chess classes.
My experience helps me to identify the weak spots in the student’s chess armor, and that is where I provide help in making them reach their personal Milestones in chess with the Correct Attitude to Learning chess.
Many of these students went on to become school champions, district champions, state champions and went on to participate in national and international level chess events having achieved a decent FIDE rating up to 1900-2000 and an online rating of 2300 to 2500.
If you are interested in learning chess, do drop me a mail at kishchess at Gmail dot com or WhatsApp (+91 98410 70891)
9 EASY Steps to Online Chess Classes – Golden Chess Centre
Virtual Chess Room for Training and Playing online for our students who are staying indoors!
We are pleased to announce online chess classes for all students globally, above 5 years of age. For those outside India, you will have to register for a demo session first. After the demo class, we will design the schedule and pace of the class especially reflecting the speed and comfort.
Our chess academy classes are now ONLINE Chess Classes!
We are forced to stay inside our homes as a precautionary measure due to the coronavirus outbreak. Whether we like it or not this is the new normal.
Given the number of requests we’ve had for virtual chess classes (as an alternative to our academy direct classes), we have arranged all our training resources in one place for you. Online.
Many of you who were not having time due to the schools’ exams, would like to take this break as a time to train harder.
Online Chess classes are a fun, rewarding, and engaging experience for kids to learn chess in a focused virtual classroom setting.
We will work with the students to develop their chess knowledge and skill, and this in turn helps develop an understanding of the real world and learn relevant lessons through their efforts.
Our students have a great time learning and building confidence and self-esteem by solving challenging scenarios and having a culture, that celebrates effort rather than just success.
Students will experience this value in all of our sessions as they learn chess and life skills, which will prepare them to excel in chess and life.
Chess classes are ranked around various levels of chess knowledge that develop students from the basics to an advanced understanding of the game of chess.
Tech-savvy Kids
We believe in quality over quantity.
We highly recommend parents to sit along with and attend the online chess classes for kids, especially if the child is lesser than 7 years of age.
This way they will be there as a support system and also provide family involvement.
Family participation is very important to inculcate the seriousness of their endeavours in children.
We want to make sure the students have a great support system with their families at home.
What is the procedure for Online Chess Classes?
Please read the below points and let us know if you have any doubts.
Preliminary technical requirements for the online chess class:
1. Internet connection with decent speed (even Mobile hotspot will suffice)
2. Laptop or PC or even a Mobile
3. Headset or earphone recommended.
Software requirements for the online chess class:
4. Skype with ID (preferable with the child’s name). You can install Skype on your mobile too. It is advisable to take a test call with us, before registering for the online chess class.
Willpower is the ability to resist short-term temptations to meet long-term goals.
Willpower allows us to ignore unwanted thoughts, feelings, or desires.
1. Commit to a goal at the outset.
Tightrope yourself with a shoestring so you cannot have a freeway with your temptations. Make sure that you are plugging all those temptation-pulls so that you are riding with your brakes released.
In other words, temptations and diversions are like a brake applied constantly while driving your car. Get the picture?
It won’t stop you completely, but it will make it increasingly difficult, to move away from your goals.
For example, buy a book instead of downloading it online. That way your conscience will not allow you to give it a pass. You will sit down to read it since you paid for it with your hard-earned cash.
Or carry only a fixed amount of cash when you’re on a tight rope budget, and leave your credit cards at home, preventing you from making ‘that impulsive purchase’.
in my experience, for example, a relative of mine felt she was going to the movies too frequently. To counter that, I told her to calculate all the money spent on the tickets and popcorn.
And when she saw that they amounted to a lot she stopped going to the movies that frequently.
By showing the total picture she saw the absurdity of her habits and now she is spending the saved money on useful books that are much needed to increase her expertise.
2. Meditate every day.
Preferably in the morning. It is one of the most difficult-to-start regimens, but once started it will help you so much that you begin to wonder – ‘what was I doing all these years without this essential habit’?
I know that it may seem like a waste of time which could have been spent reading the newspaper or going to sleep an extra 15 minutes but that is just your mind trying to avoid anything that tames it.
Read this tip from Headspace – a U.S. study found that people who meditated daily experienced improved willpower and focus. The researchers found that “those who practiced meditation on a daily basis persisted on tasks longer and made fewer task pullouts, as well as reducing negative feedback after task completion.”
So instead of reaching for your mobile phone or tablet, first thing in the morning and checking all your chats or messages, try spending 15 minutes meditating and reap the benefits of willpower training.
Although it looks simple, sitting still in a yogic posture like Padmasana or Sukhasana, and watching your thoughts in motion is difficult. But the benefits of meditating extend beyond the 15 minutes of quiet every morning. Meditating keeps the mind calm and focused.
3. Exercise regularly.
Cesar Milan training with a dog
If you watched Ceaser Milan’s ‘Dog Whisperer‘ where he documents his dog-training techniques (if you haven’t watched yet shame on you 🙂 ) you must have seen that he first removes all the negative pent up energy in a ferocious dog by taking him/her to a brisk walk or a run.
I remember how he even used one particular dog as a skateboard puller) and the dogs seemed to like it every bit.
After that, the dogs became calm and obedient after the exercise.
Now what transpired in this effort was that that run tamed all the energy overflow and the dog became submissive and calm after that exercise.
It’s the same with the human mind. A study in the Netherlands has revealed that a ‘quick’ workout correlated with better self-control, among other important benefits.
Going to the gym, not only strengthens your body muscles but also your willpower.
4. Get a good night’s sleep.
I use a fitness tracker that comes cheap at Amazon. It is called Mi Fit (or Mi Band in some countries). What it does is to measure your sleep pattern and tell you how much of deep sleep and light sleep you have had every night. This helps in determining what you are missing.
A deep sleep of more than 1 hour is recommended and if you are falling short try improving it.
A good night’s sleep* provides you, with the much-needed mental and physical energy to make it through the upcoming day’s events. If you miss out on your regular dosage of sleep, you’ll feel lethargic and your willpower would become weak. In fact, a lack of sleep can result in impaired reflex action speed and an inability to think clearly.
One study found that this fatigue-impaired state is equivalent to being drunk. So imagine what it can do to your chess!
“Proper rest improves our self-control power and provides a good environment for the brain to function,”
Ryan Clements writes. “Rest reduces the body’s need for glucose, and it allows the body to make a better use, of what we have.”
If you’re struggling to fall asleep, I suggest moving away from laptop/PC/Mobile screens and reading a paperback book. I do something different – I listen to some heavy meta-physical lectures that make me go to sleep in no time 🙂 But before doing anything make sure you are in bed and almost ready to doze off!
The light from these screens disturbs our body’s circadian rhythm, making our subconscious think, that it’s daytime when in reality, it is time for sleep.
*A good night’s rest normally means getting seven to eight hours of shut-eye for an adult.
Low glucose levels = weaker willpower. A study revealed that participants who were not fed or did not eat well before starting a project gave it up halfway, much earlier than their fully-fed compatriots.
“To keep (your willpower) high, eat regular meals having full of protein and good carbohydrates, like a sandwich of lean meat and cheese packed between two slices of whole-wheat bread,” Stephanie Booth writes in Real Simple. “And never start a challenging task on an empty stomach.”
Starting each morning with a hearty meal gives your willpower a much-needed boost. Small ideas help like the consumption of dry fruit snacks such as almonds, walnuts cashews, and yogurt, to sustain high-energy levels. Have them either one hour before or after your meals.
7. Read books on the mind and its secrets – (especially for parents of chess-playing children)
One of the most influential books about children ever published, Nurture Shock offers a radical perspective on children that tosses a library’s worth of conventional wisdom. Why are kids – even those from the best of homes – still undisciplined and aggressive? The answer is found in a rethinking of parental conflict, discipline, television’s unexpected influence, and social dominance.
The authors of Nurture Shock – Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman‘s New York Magazine articles on the science of children won the magazine journalism award from the American Association for the Advancement of Science, as well as the Clarion Award from the Association for Women in Communications. Their articles for Time Magazine won the award for outstanding journalism from the Council on Contemporary Families. Bronson has authored five books, including the #1 New York Times bestseller What Should I Do With My Life?
With that we come to the end of what we started with – 7 Willpower tips to Maximize winning chances in chess – here is hoping we get better with these techniques.
The author Anshuman Jain is a chess coach at Golden Chess Centre, Nanganallur, Chennai. He is available for Chess training and is an expert in Digital Chess classrooms and training techniques. When he is not teaching Chess he likes to learn computer languages.
Things Chess players can learn from 2 year old baby
Amazing Things Chess Players Can Learn from a 2 year old baby!
Recently I came across a two-year-old child and after observing his daily activities, I was amazed at what we can learn from him.
Here is the list of practical tips, that I learned from the baby.
Chess playing is a habit that will not be easy to quit.
Because, apart from playing in tournaments, you can also play online with other players, not only from your country but the entire World.
Being a chess player is in itself a big achievement, because very few people in the world have the playing acumen and skill needed for Chess.
You can learn the tactics of Chess from your daily life activities like when watching TV or watching movies; all it needs, is just a keen sense of observation, that is!
6 Things Chess players can learn from 2 year old baby
1. Never complain.
Have you ever observed a two-year-old child going about his daily routines?
If anything, he’ll never complain. Wait… you’ll say, a baby could cry – but that is not complaining!
He is only expressing his emotions by either laughing or crying.
The same concept we can apply, in our chess growth process, – that is – we can take all our responsibilities for our losses (and wins) on our shoulders.
So that we never complain about any shortcomings or bad luck, for lack of success in Chess.
Friends, no one will spoon-feed you, even a good coach will not want to do this – he will and must, guide you.
The rest is your work.
2. Just One Target.
A two-year-old child has just one target – once he/she asks for anything, Then come what may – that ‘anything’ is the main desire for him.
When you started playing chess, what was your target and your dream?
Remember that, all the time.
There is an Indian mythological tale in the Mahabharata (revered lore in Indian tradition).
When the famous teacher Guru Dronacharaya asked his best disciple Arjuna, what he had seen when he ordered him to attack the target with his arrow.
Arjuna answered coolly – “The only thing I see is the sparrow’s eye”.
The same thing is also applicable to our chess pursuits – single-minded focus.
Have you ever wanted something desperately and after some time, not so much?
A child has a fixed time for getting up early in the morning, taking food at a fixed time, and then sleeping at a fixed time.
If you don’t have time for your chess training, then you won’t make any progress, which you were thinking at the start of learning chess.
This is all about doing the same thing daily – and – finally one day you become an expert in any field.
There is one good saying – “to become an expert in any field you need to put in just 10000 hours of intense practice”.
Do it daily and see the leap in your performance after 6 months.
5. One baby step at a time.
Have you noticed how a child is always living in the present moment? Babies demonstrate remarkable persistence when learning new skills.
Like crawling or walking. Likewise, chess players can learn to persevere through tough games, setbacks, and challenging positions, developing resilience along the way.
The child only takes one small baby step at a time and does not crave immediate success in whatever he wants.
If he observes a toy at the far end of the room, he does not run.
He takes whatever is possible in small steps towards that toy, and goes with a one-minded focus.
Babies learn by trial and error, repeatedly trying until they succeed. Chess players can adopt this mindset, especially in analyzing games, learning from losses, and refining strategies through experimentation.
That is how we must be in our chess preparation and training.
Small steps are needed daily.
Science has proved that anything done daily for 21 days in a row becomes a habit, and if you start small it is easier to create a habit.
A child doesn’t have anything to worry about. Like when to eat or how to eat, etc.
You should also not have any worries about whether you can achieve mastery or not.
At Golden Chess Centre, we ask parents and the students, not to look at the results.
Babies are fully present in whatever they’re doing. Similarly, chess players can benefit from focusing entirely on the current position on the board, without getting distracted by past mistakes or future possibilities.
The game quality, is what the coach looks into, not the match points.
Results will improve automatically if the quality of your game improves.
And looking at results will only add up to the pressure.
In Chess, results depend on just one last mistake and if the student keeps training persistently in a disciplined way, even that mistake will be removed by sheer dint of hard work.
Let not success excite you, or failure pull you down.
The Amazing Things Chess players can learn from 2 year old baby are worth keeping in your mind.
When the players see that they are not able to win a particular opponent then they go into a QUITTING mindset. Quitting is a very easy thing. But principle motto of life says – “WINNERS NEVER QUIT AND QUITTERS NEVER WIN.”
Golden Chess Centre conducts regular training sessions for dedicated and upcoming chess players in Nanganallur, Madipakkam, Adambakkam, Moovarasampet, Kilkattalai, Kovilambakkam, Puzhuthivakkam, Ullagaram and Pazhavanthangal – Chennai,
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Have you ever wanted something really bad and after some time, not so much?
When we were just children we had many small desires like buying a comic, a doll or a toy, and we nagged our parents really bad. As teenagers, we wanted to be highly popular and admired by all, an intensity that you may all still retrieve when you see your child doing the same or see your old school pics. Sure enough this desire to be popular, starts to ebb by the beginning of college years. So my thoughts started on what to do When Priorities and Desires Change. How to understand yourself ? How best to aim our desires in a positive direction and focus especially in the game we all love so much – Chess?
So yeah, our desires and their importance fade with time. For example, I am sure as teens, we day-dreamed about a fabulous looking partner. Then came the desire for passionate and intense partners. Even this disappears, albeit to muffled tones at times. Isn’t it a funny thing to talk about when we discuss the way our desires shift or diminish with time?
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Desire may be hugely interpreted as the push and pull of hormones and that is a conception that many of us have been having for a long time. However in due course of time, people understand that their lives are defined by striving for excellence, when we see other successful people and wish we had done something worthwhile when there was still time. Not that we have any shortage of time now but then at age 30 or 40 the enthusiasm fades off for the majority of us.
Everything happens in auto pilot mode and we enter the cocoon of routine.
Additionally, there is another problem that we as chess players, face. We have always wanted to be skillful at many things. We climb up the rating ladder. And after working hard to achieve some chess expertise, we have something called ‘stagnation’ creeping in. We now stop engaging in the activities as such, and this makes me wonder if we would have loved the process as much equally, as if the success we found, was easier to attain. I am also guilty of such stagnations in my life and it takes a great effort to come out of it alone.
Does desire equals a love for the process, for the journey or the attainment of the goal?
With things we never had, it’s harder to find out whether the desire will reduce with time, but core desires are much akin to the desire for love and happiness than the desire to master a skill, which is less of the heart and more of the mind matter – controlled by conscious thinking.
When asked during an interview how he managed to reach the top as a professional Chess Grandmaster, Botvinnik replied with a single word, “Desire!”
All great success ultimately begins with just a small idea, a seed, so to speak, but what makes ideas become reality, is the fuel of human desire. Just an idea alone can give you a temporary feeling of inspiration, but a burning wanting desire is what gets you through all the perspiration necessary to overcome the numerous obstacles along the path.
One secret to overcome stagnation is Clarity – or – refinement of desires. This comes from contrasting experiences, so if you want more clarity, invite more of the new by embracing and accepting new experiences. This is especially crucial for people in their teens and 20s. Your brain learns a lot from experience. If you lack any new experience, then how can your brain know its most important calling? Of course it cannot — you need to train it more.
How are you supposed to discover your favorite hobbies if you do the equivalent of doing just one chore every day? How are you going to discover your favorite food(s) if you are eating the same diet, every single day?
So my suggestion to you when Priorities and Desires change is – do anything and everything if it’s totally new to you.
Like playing a blitz game if you have never played it before or playing a slow time control if you not done it earlier.
The benefit is that you’ll give your brain a lot of experiences to compare and contrast. This will help you choose and fix your tastes.
Then the desire to learn will be long lasting and new everyday, every time.
Rethink about the ambitions/goals you’ve set for yourself. (You have set goals, haven’t you? If not, then do set them first). Before fixing your priorities and goals answer the following and act accordingly:
How committed are you to achieving these targets?
Under what conditions would you call it quits?
What if you could significantly increase your desire to achieve these targets?
What if you wanted them so badly that you would never ever give up chasing those targets?
When you are truly 100% committed to attaining your targets/goals, you move from doubt to knowing for sure. If you want something really bad, then quitting is simply out of your mind.
You either discover a way or make your own path to reach there. You are ready to pay the price, whatever it takes to reach your destination.
Some hugely inspiring books that have motivated me on my path –
